If your toddler is upset or having a tantrum, knowing what they are upset about will help you manage it. Sometimes you will need to comfort your toddler, other times ignoring the tantrum might work best. Sometimes toddler tantrums can affect your plans for the day. It’s best if you decide what you’ll do, rather than let your child make the decisions by having tantrums.
Once your toddler has calmed down, give them smiles and tell them you’re pleased with them for learning to control their behaviour.
If you feel like you need to give your toddler a consequence for their actions, make sure it’s reasonable for their age, related to what they did, and respectful.
To understand things, toddlers need your reaction to happen right after what they did. They also need to be able to see how your reaction fits their action.
Many toddlers hit and bite, but they need to learn that it’s not okay. If your toddler bites:
New Zealand law has set a standard to ensure that all children have the right to grow up free from violence. Using force to change a child’s behaviour is illegal. Parents can hold or pick up a child to keep them safe, move them, stop them hurting others, or to provide care like changing nappies but this needs to be reasonable for the situation.
Smacking and other kinds of physical punishment shouldn’t be used because:
Children copy adults’ behaviour - good and bad - so it helps to think about the future.