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Ngā whainga me mōhio koe

  • Kotahi i roto i te tekau o ngā pāpā e kawe ana i te mate pā pōuri. Ka uru atu koe ki tēnei mate, toro atu ki ētahi atu hei āwhina ia koe. He maha ngā tangata hei manaaki ia koe
  • Ko te mate pā pouri e kii ana he whainga tonu tenei mo te tānē, me te mea hoki he maha nga tāne ka pēnei i te wā kotahi
  • Ko te painga mō te tangata kia ora ia, kia hari ia. Ēhara i te aha me tiaki koe i a koe anō.

Ka pā hoki te mate pā pouri hoki ki ngā pāpā

Kua mana tēnei kōrero ka tau kotahi ki roto i te tekau o ngā tāne ka whai i tēnei mate pā pōuri.

Ko ētahi āhuatanga whakararu ka kitea mō tēnei mate (i te wā e hapū ana tō wahine) ā, (whaimuri iho te whānau mai ō tō pēpi) inā:

  • Ka eketia koe e te mate pā pōuri mua rawa ā
  • Ka pā tēnei mate ki ia māmā (tahi mai te rima ō ia māmā ka mau ki te mate pā pouri).

Ko ētahi atu o ngā whakararu hei pēhi i tenei mate ko te kaupapa mō te moni, ko te hononga, ko te mauiui, te pēpi kokoti, ā ka maharahara mo tō hoa pumau te uauatanga i te waha i a ia a pēpi, te whakawhānau, me te roa ake ō tōna hokinga ora mai.  

He maha ngā whainga kua kitea i ngā rangahau he ritenga ngā ira ō māmā me pāpā i te taenga mai ō te pēpi hou (ko ngā piki me ngā heke o ngā taiaki o te tinana e mōhiohia nei ko te; testosterone, estrogen me te cortisol) koia nei ētahi patunga mō te mate hinengaro.

Ka kōrero ake ā Ruka mō tōnā nei whainga o te mate pā pouri  

Source: Perinatal Anxiety and Depression Aotearoa (PADA) and Like Minds Like Mine Foundation

Pēhea te āwangawanga?

E ai ki te kii he rite tēnei mea te āwangawanga ki tā te mate pā pouri o te pāpā me te mea hoki ka tau ngā mea e rua ki te tane i te wā kotahi.

Kōrero ake

Ka mohio ake koe, kaore koe i te pai, ā kua tau mai tētahi taumahatanga ki runga i a koe, whakapā ki tētahi atu ka kōrero atu.

Na, ēhara tēnei i te whakaatu he mūrere noa koe ki te patai āwhina, e kao! He painga kē tēnei mou, ā mō tō whānau me tō hoa rangatira. Kia kaha tonu.

Ka ora koe ka hari koe koina te mea nui.

Te whai āwhina

He painga ki te kōrero mo tō mate hinengaro kia wawe tonu. I te kore, inā ka waiho ake, kei mahue te hauora o tō tinana.

Ka motu tō ringa mai te mīhini kani, kore rawa koe e waiho mō te ono marama tatari ai katahi noa ka waea atu ki te waka turoro.

Ka rite anō tēnā ki te haora o tō  hinengaro. Ka mohio koe kei te pā mai te mauiui kaua e tatari mō te ono marama kātahi anō ka wāea mō te āwhina.

Ka motu koe mai te mihi kanī kaore anō kia mahū ake, ka whakaeketia e te pā pouri me te āwangawanga ka kore koe e tere ki te whakatika. Ka tāhuri koe kite tākuta anō ia koe me āu nei rongoa pēnā i te waipiro, te tarutaru me ētahi atu whakararu (noho roa ki te mahi mo te wā ) āhakoa aua mahi ka hē rawa atu te mutunga.

Nā ka mōhio koe kei te whakaeke mai aua tohu ki a kō mō nga wiki e rua, kua eke te wā me tono āwhina.

He maha ngā tangata ka tāea e koe te whakapā atu ki te āwhina ia koe. Otirā, ka tāea te whakatika te whakahoki mai te wairua harikoa me te oranga:

  • Ko tō hoa rangatira, tō whanau, tō hoa mahi me ngā tangata pono

  • Ka whakarite tō Takuta me tō whānau ngā momo tautoko mōu, ā, ka toro atu ki ētahi atu tangata haora hei āwhina. (Kaiwhakatakoto whakaaro, mate hinengaro) ka pīrangi ake

  • Whānau Āwhina PlunketLine (0800 933 922) – kei konei ngā nēhi hei tautoko  24/7.  Anei te wāea kore utu

  • Pātūhi ā-waeal 1737– Aotearoa kore utu, 24/7  kaiwhakaaro hinengaro tōpū
  • Kidz Need Dadz (KND) kore utu, Dadzkare support line – 0800 563 123
  • Ora motuhake (0800 543 354 pātuhi rānei 4357) kei reira  24/7  ka uru koe ki te pouritanga.

Te Mate Pā Pouri me te Āwangawanga: Titiro ake

Ngā tōhu a tinana ka kitea:

  • Ngenge
  • Kua kore e tino kai
  • Kua uaua te moe , hikoi hāere ētahi wā.
  • Ka iti ake tōnā rahi
  • Ka anīnī te mahunga, ka mamae ngā uaua ō te tinana (maha ngā taumahatanga)

Ka rerekē ngā āria me ngā momo waihanga o te tinana koia nei ētahi tōhu mō te mate pā pouri ka eke:

  • pouritanga
  • mau tangetange, te ngakau kino
  • kiri kawa, āwangawanga, riri
  • whakamohū, whakakore mai tō hoa rangatira me ngā hoa, whānau
  • Kua kore e rata ki ngā tākaro o mua
  • Mataku ki te tiaki i a pepe.

Kaua rerekē ngā whakaaro – hei tauira ake, ka pīrangi koe:

  • Kua kore e tāea te hāngai te whakaaro, maumahara i ngā kaupapa.
  • He uaua te whakatau whakaaro me ngā mahi ia rā 
  • He maha ngā whakaaro kua kore e tāea, kua mau, kua kore e tutuki.  
  • Ka whakaaro mō te mate, ā whakamate ake.

Kua rerekē te āhua – ka pēnei:

  • Kua kore e aro atu i te āi
  • Kua kore e aro atu i tō whānau ka noho roa atu i te mahi.
  • Kua kai tarutaru, inu waipiro he momo āwhina ia koe.
Source: Antenatal depression and postnatal depression in men

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Kia kaha

He maha ngā pāpā e whakaaro ana kia kaha akē rātou, kia tāea te pupuri i te whānau i te wā kei te tino mate te hinengaro ā māmā anō hoki.

Ko te mea kaha rawa atu me pātai mō te āwhina. Kaua e noho mōhū noa.

Ka tāea te whakatika i te mate pā pouri me te āwangawanga -māu anō e toro atu ki waho kia āwhinatia koe, me moata te tono. 

Kōrero ake. Koia te tuatahi hei tautoko i tō whānau.

He aha ngā kōrero a ngā tāne #Kōreropāpā mō te āhuatanga ō te pāpā mō tō rātou mate hinengaro: 

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